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How to stop addiction

Posted by on Jul 2, 2013 in Addiction, Sobriety | Comments Off on How to stop addiction

How to stop addiction

An addiction is a scary thing. It can seem impossible to overcome any type of addiction but there are actually steps you can to stop addiction. As long as you haven’t reached the point of no return you can do what you need to rewind and stop addiction in its tracks.

How to stop addiction: acknowledge why you do it

Why do you engage in your addiction? You have to be able to answer that question in order to stop addiction. Is it to help you with anxiety and stress? It may be hard to admit why you have your addiction but you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge exists. Admit why you engage in the addiction to yourself and you are on your to stopping addiction.

How to stop addiction: Think rational thoughts instead of sitting in denial

You probably understand at a conscious and intellectual level that your addiction is unhealthy yet you keep on using or drinking and this baffles you. If you are in denial about your addiction this is probably why. If you can’t get through the day without a shot of vodka, you may be self-medicating and if you have reached the point of knowing its bad and can’t stop you may need outside help from something like a drug rehab to stop addiction. Realizing this is a rational thought.

How to stop addiction: Using coping skills

People never break bad habits they merely replace them with new ones. Recognize that you get a reward of some sort from smoking, using drugs, or drinking. Find something else to give you that reward and you have found new coping skills and have stopped the addiction. If you have reached the point of no return and need to attend rehab it is still a very good idea to find new coping skills for life for when you are out of rehab. Finding new coping skills can stop addiction in its tracks. And if you can stop addiction than you can begin to live a healthy life again. You have the ability to quiet yourself without drugs and alcohol; without your addiction. You also have the ability to reduce stress without drugs and alcohol. Find new things to use to stop addiction instead of drugs and alcohol which fuel it.

How to stop addiction: Have a support system and become accountable

If you truly want to stop addiction and get clean then you are going to need help from people and you are going to need to be accountable to those people. Accountability means showing up when you say you are going to and no longer engaging in addictive behaviors like being flaky. The support system you have is meant to help you stop addiction by telling you the truth about yourself when you want to go into denial about your addiction. Your support system will also help you to find new ways to be healthier and do those things with you. Support and accountability can also come in the form of rehab to stop addiction.

 

 

 

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Drug Treatment for Pregnant Women

Posted by on Jun 24, 2013 in Addicted Children, Addicted Parents, Addiction, Pregnancy, Women | Comments Off on Drug Treatment for Pregnant Women

Drug treatment for pregnant women

The need for drug treatment for pregnant women is high. Prenatal care and drug treatment can help ensure healthy babies and prevent the developmental and behavioral problems caused by alcohol and other drugs in pregnant women.

Infant mortality and drug and alcohol addicted babies is directly linked to the quality of prenatal care the mothers received. Low-income families sometimes do not have access to or they don’t seek health care. Birth defects, developmental problems, and behavioral problems occur in many children whose mothers have not gotten adequate prenatal care. Prenatal health care programs for women in low income families can help prevent the occurrence of developmental problems that contribute to low academic achievement and the likelihood of delinquent behavior. This is part of the reason drug treatment for pregnant women are so important.

The facts about drug use in pregnant women

The most recent National Household Survey on Drug Use and Health estimated that in 2004-2005, 3.9% of pregnant mothers had used illicit drugs, including cocaine, in the past month. Even more alarming, the prevalence rate of illegal drug use was higher for pregnant women in the 15-18-year age range (12.3%) than for women aged 18-25 years (7%). Moreover, the women who abuse illicit drugs often use licit drugs. An estimated 32% of those using one illicit drug during pregnancy also use both alcohol and cigarettes, revealing disturbing estimates of 800,000 to 1 million fetuses exposed to the effects of legal (including alcohol) or illegal substances every year.

The reason pregnant women don’t go to drug treatment

Drug treatment for pregnant women became prevalent in the 1980s as a result of the cocaine epidemic. Despite the increase of drug treatment for pregnant women there are serious barriers against treatment for pregnant addicts and alcoholics. Many drug treatment programs have focused or relied on male based recovery models that focus on the individual and not the pregnant nor the postpartum addict within the context of their family or environment. It is often difficult for drug using mothers to be accepted into drug treatment programs if they are pregnant. Many maternal substance abusers are also hesitant to enter into a drug treatment program for fear of losing custody of their children or fear of criminal prosecution including negative reactions from normal drug treatment programs-which all drives them away from going to drug treatment. Lack of resources is another barrier that keeps pregnant women from getting drug treatment.

Drug treatment for pregnant women works

But drug treatment that starts during pregnancy is effective. Prenatal clinics are prime settings for identifying pregnant women with a drug or alcohol and problem and finding them a drug treatment for pregnant women. There are increasing drug treatment programs for pregnant women that give prenatal care as well as solutions to addiction and alcoholism. Not only that but these drug treatment programs for women also provide daycare for any children the mother may already have.

But yet there isn’t enough drug treatment for pregnant women:

“Less than half of the drug treatment providers whose clients were only women provided services for pregnant or postpartum women, prenatal and perinatal care, child care services, women’s groups, or domestic violence services”

And this isn’t the way it should be. Drug treatment for pregnant women is of the utmost importance and luckily more and more programs are showing up that are willing to provide this special care and treatment for pregnant women.

 

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/568725_4

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How to remove yourself from the victim role

Posted by on Jun 17, 2013 in Abusive Relationships, Codependent Relationship, Emotional Abuse, Helplessness, Recovery | Comments Off on How to remove yourself from the victim role

How to remove yourself from the victim role

Addicts and alcoholics love to play the victim. We blame our addiction on outside people and circumstances. This allows us to shift responsibility for using drugs and drinking, and allows us to justify continuing to destroy our lives. We think, “If this had happened to you, you would use drugs and drink too.”

This is not to say that addicts and alcoholics haven’t been through any trauma. Most addicts and alcoholics have. But instead of working through that trauma, we use it as an excuse to fuel our addiction and self-destruction.

Recovery does not work if you do not remove yourself from the victim role. If you cannot take responsibility for your own mental health and behavior, you will become trapped in a cycle of addiction that will never end. If I get to be the victim, the overindulged one, the entitled one, the misunderstood one, the abused one and the wronged one, I don’t have to be responsible for myself. It is just that simple.

How to remove yourself from the victim role: Stop selfish and self centered thinking

People who are playing the victim role often have a strong sense of entitlement. They will use their role as the victim to justify and excuse any behavior. They will rarely if ever ask you anything about yourself. It doesn’t even occur to them because they are so wrapped up in self-pity. They are selfish and self-centered.

The way to stop selfish and self-centered thinking is to get out of yourself. You first must decide on a new way of thinking and then practice it vigorously. When you start to feel sorry for yourself, do something for someone else. When you talk to others, ask about them.

How to remove yourself from the victim role: Get honest

Often those in the victim role will justify all of their behavior. Dishonesty is the central theme in their lives. They will have to reach a point where they realize that their behavior is no longer working for them and they are using the victim role to justify acting out. Getting honest is central to removing yourself from the victim role.

When you do something wrong, apologize without attaching any “and” or “but” to it. “I’m sorry I raised my voice, but I couldn’t help it.” The “but” disqualifies the apology. Take responsibility for the reaction of yelling.

How to remove yourself from the victim role: Practice kindness

Those who are trapped in the victim role very rarely think about doing anything for someone else, let alone acting on it. They look at every situation as how it is affecting them or what they can get out of it. Practicing kindness, especially when you do something for someone else without them knowing it, can be a powerful tool in removing yourself from the victim role.

Removing yourself from the victim role does not happen overnight, but with practice it is possible. Ask your sober supports to let you know when you are playing the victim, and take action to change the behavior when they do.

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5 Signs That You are in an Abusive Relationship

Posted by on Jun 3, 2013 in Abusive Relationships, Codependent Relationship, Physical Abuse, Verbal Abuse, Women | Comments Off on 5 Signs That You are in an Abusive Relationship

Signs you are in an abusive relationship

You would think that if you were in an abusive relationship you would definitely know it, but abuse can come in many different forms and a person can easily become jaded to the fact that the relationship is abusive after they have been around it for a long time. So how do you know that you are in an abusive relationship? Is it the physical and domestic violence? Not always. Here are 5 sings that you are in an abusive relationship.

5 signs that you are in an abusive relationship: It is rushed.

We see it in Hollywood movies all the time; the couple knows from the very beginning that they are meant for each other. Maybe it is a simple glance across the room or maybe it is a connection the first date. Either way there is no waiting for the relationship to bloom or grow on its own; they just know. An abusive relationship usually starts off similar to this. An abusive partner in a relationship may be romantic and sweet especially at the beginning of a relationship. But there is immediacy, and what it really is, is a need to control.

5 signs that you are in an abusive relationship: Mood swings.

What we mean by mood swings are for instance; your partners brings you flowers to work and tells you he made reservations at your favorite restaurant but when you tell him you can’t make it because you have other plans he becomes angry and insulting. Seconds later, he will usually say he was kidding and then say he loves you (insert amount). These reactions are not your fault and they also aren’t what make a healthy relationship. They are signs you may be in an abusive relationship.

5 signs that you are in an abusive relationship: It is all accusatory.

People who are victims of abuse often believe that they are to blame for their situation and nothing could be further from the truth. But since accusations are often said by abusers it is really easy for the victim of the abuse to eventually begin holding themselves responsible for anything that goes wrong. An abuser will blame others rather than say they are responsible.

5 signs that you are in an abusive relationship: You are isolated.

If you are being cut off from friends or family by the person you are in a relationship with you may be in an abusive relationship. Be aware that an abusive person will often claim that the people who were the closest to you need to mind their own business. You may be isolated in other ways too. For instance, with your finances; you no longer have control of your bank account or credit cards. If you can’t go where you want without permission you are also being isolated. All of these are dangerous signs of an abusive relationship.

5 signs that you are in an abusive relationship: You are afraid.

Fear comes in many different forms and in different degrees. There is the fear of irritating your partner and having another argument, the fear of being insulted and humiliated in public, and then there is the fear of being physically attacked. There is also the fear of ending the relationship and the fear of continuing with it. Fear in whatever form is not part of a healthy relationship. Even if you haven’t been physically abuse, fear can erode self-confidence and even compromise your health. It is very common for victims to minimize the severity of the situation however the disturbing signs of an abusive relationship need to be recognized. This can make it easier to move on from an abusive relationship.

For more about unhealthy relationships, see Signs of a Codependent Relationship

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Pro Ana and Social media

Posted by on May 31, 2013 in Addiction, Anorexia Nervosa, Body Image, Eating Disorder, Pro Ana | Comments Off on Pro Ana and Social media

 Pro Ana and Social Media

 

What is pro ana?

Pro ana literally stands for the promotion (pro) of the eating disorder anorexia nervosa (ana). In relation to pro ana there is also pro mia which stands for the promotion (pro) of the other common eating disorder bulimia (mia). Pro ana groups differ in their supposed stances. Some pro ana groups claim that they only exist to give a non-judgmental environment to anorexics and others deny the fact that anorexia nervosa is a mental illness and even go so far as to claim that anorexia is a lifestyle choice that should be respected by doctors and family members.

What pro ana and social media is like

Pro ana advocacy got its start on the internet and more specifically through social media. There are many pro ana groups centered on social media sites such as Tumblr, Xanga, LiveJournal, Facebook, MySpace and Pinterest. These pro ana groups on social media are small, hidden, and have a dominantly female following.

Members of pro ana and social media groups usually:

  • Endorse anorexia and/or bulimia as desirable (84% and 64% respectively in a 2010 survey).
  • Share crash dieting techniques and recipes (67% of sites in a 2006 survey, rising to 83% in a 2010 survey).
  • Coach each other on using socially acceptable pretexts for refusing food, such as veganism (which is notably more prevalent in the eating-disordered in general).
  • Compete with each other at losing weight, or fast together in displays of solidarity.
  • Commiserate with one another after breaking fast or binging.
  • Advise on how to best induce vomiting, and on using laxatives and emetics.
  • Give tips on hiding weight loss from parents and doctors.
  • Share information on reducing the side-effects of anorexia.
  • Post their weight, body measurements, details of their dietary regimen or pictures of themselves to solicit acceptance and affirmation.
  • Suggest ways to ignore or suppress hunger pangs.

Some pro ana groups on social media are very warm and welcoming especially if they are recovery oriented or they can be cliquish and suspicious of newcomers. The cliquish and more suspicious pro ana social media groups usually have hostility towards anyone who disapproves of their “lifestyle choice”, for instance family members, spouses, relatives, and friends who appear on the site to post threats and warnings against their eating disorder. They also tend to be very mean towards causal dieters who join believing that eating disorders will cause them to lose weight faster or more effectively. These cliquish pro ana social media groups call these people “wannabes” or “wannarexics”.

The negative impact of pro ana and social media

There are a lot of dangerous and negative impacts of pro ana and social media. Pro ana and social media can negatively impact the eating behavior of people with and without eating disorders. Individuals without eating disorders, (84%) in one study, decreased their caloric intake by an average of 2,470 calories per week after viewing pro ana social media groups. And only about half of them noticed the difference in the caloric intake. Women who view pro ana social media sites also experience an increase in negative affect and a decrease in self-esteem and perceived attractiveness. These women also feel heavier and were more likely to think about their weight and that they were heavier.

Anything that promotes a mental illness (anorexia is a mental illness) is not healthy. The pro ana social media sites and groups will probably never disappear forever but the more knowledge out there that is focused on the truth of eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia the better.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pro-ana

http://www.nytimes.com/2002/06/23/health/a-disturbing-growth-industry-web-sites-that-espouse-anorexia.html

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/6935768.stm

 

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Women and Marijuana

Posted by on May 20, 2013 in Marijuana, Women | Comments Off on Women and Marijuana

women and marijuana

Drug abuse is rising among women. Men still outnumber women in terms of drug abuse and addiction, but the gap is starting to close. Women comprise nearly 32 percent of admissions to drug treatment centers nationwide. Illnesses associated with drug use are expected to kill some 200,000 women annually – four times more than breast cancer.

Women and Marijuana: Fertility

Many people think of marijuana as a fairly benign drug. However, in terms of a women’s fertility, marijuana can be very dangerous. Women who smoke the drug regularly secrete small amounts of THC in their vaginal fluid and also have trace amounts present in their reproductive organs. Sperm that come into contact with this THC absorb the drug and become over stimulated. Continued use of marijuana can also impair hormones in the brain that control puberty, menstrual cycles, and ovulation.

Women and Marijuana: Pregnancy

Every day you smoke marijuana while pregnant puts your body in danger of high blood pressure, rapid heartbeat, low weight gain, preterm labor and early delivery. Marijuana crosses the placenta, so when you smoke pot, your baby is affected too. It contains toxins that can keep your baby from getting enough oxygen. It is difficult to pinpoint the exact effect of marijuana on your baby’s brain because many mothers who smoke pot during pregnancy also abuse other substances. However, it is widely known that smoking marijuana during pregnancy increases the risk of giving birth before 37 weeks. This may not seem like a big deal, but pre-term birth can cause a host of complications.

A developing baby goes through important growth during the final weeks and months of pregnancy. Many organ systems, including the brain, lungs, and liver need the final weeks of pregnancy to develop fully. There is a higher risk of serious disability or death the earlier the baby is born. Some problems that a baby born too early may face include—

  • Breathing problems
  • Feeding difficulties
  • Cerebral palsy
  • Developmental delay
  • Vision problems
  • Hearing impairment

Even women who smoke marijuana BEFORE they actually become pregnant are at a higher risk for preterm birth. This is especially crucial in the three months before conception. Women who smoked marijuana during this period increased their risk of pre-term labor by 2.3 times.

Women and Marijuana: Breastfeeding

Marijuana is excreted through the breast milk, so when you are smoking marijuana while breastfeeding, your baby is ingesting it too. In 1990, a study by suggested that exposure to THC through breast milk in the first month of life could result in decreased motor development at 1 year old. No studies have adequately addressed the effects on long-term neurodevelopment of marijuana and breastfeeding.  However, lethargy, less frequent feeding, and shorter feeding times are other observations reported after babies’ exposure to THC through breast milk.In addition, a mother’s ability to nurse and care for her child might be compromised because marijuana can affect mood and judgment. Also, environmental exposure to maternal marijuana smoke can be harmful to your baby’s lungs. Most experts recommend refraining from breastfeeding if you are smoking marijuana.

http://www.womens-health.co.uk/infertility5.asp

http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/MaternalInfantHealth/PretermBirth.htm

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1472960/

 

 

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Women and Prescription Pills

Posted by on May 17, 2013 in Prescription Drugs, Women | Comments Off on Women and Prescription Pills

Women and Prescription Pills

Women and prescription pills is a growing problem in America. Surveys, such as the 2010 Survey on Drug Use and Health, estimate that 2.4 million Americans abused prescription pills for the first time last year, and over half of them were female. This means that about 800,000 adult women began abusing prescription pills in the past year alone.

Women and Prescription Pills: Why do women abuse prescription pills?

Women are more likely to ask for and receive prescriptions for narcotic medications, and they have more access to prescribers. One possible reason is that women are more inclined to voice their concerns to a medical professional than men, and therefore are more likely to receive a prescription. While the initial complaint may be valid, prescription drugs can be incredibly habit forming. Many of the women who turn become addicted to prescription medication would never turn to illicit drugs or alcohol as a means of coping. However, because prescription drugs come from a medical professional, it is easier for them to use them, even misuse them, while still believing that they don’t have a problem.

Women and Prescription Pills: Underlying mental health problems

Women who misuse prescription medication are more likely to be victims of physical and sexual abuse or have a history of psychiatric problems.  Women who are being treated for pain not caused by cancer and who exhibit signs of stress, should be treated for mood disorders and counseled about the danger of relying on prescription drugs.

Women and Prescription Pills: What kind of pills are women abusing?

Stimulant and amphetamine use among adolescent girls is 60-70 percent higher than it is among boys. This includes medications prescribed for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) like Adderall. Girls and women take these medications to improve cognitive performance and to lose weight. Older women are not immune to the purported benefits of these types of drugs. Women in their 30’s and 40’s turn to these drugs for similar reasons-to get through their to-do lists and to lose those extra pounds. Some feel that many women turn to prescription pills in an attempt to live up to unrealistic societal obligations.

Abuse of pain medications has also significantly increased among girls and women. Adolescents girls are more likely than boys to abuse prescription pain pills like Vicodin and OxyContin. The abuse of painkillers is seen among older women as well.

Between 2005  and 2009, emergency room visits for attempted overdoses by women age 50 and older taking prescriptions for anxiety or insomnia rose 56%, and ER visits for women taking prescription pain relievers rose 30% during that same time period.

Women and Prescription Pills: Barriers to treatment

When women do abuse prescription drugs and become addicted, they are less likely than men to seek treatment. Some think that this is because the social stigma is more negative regarding woman than it is for men. Women are also more likely to convince themselves that they don’t have a problem with prescription drugs because the drugs were prescribed by a doctor. This can delay them asking for help.

Sources:

http://www.examiner.com/article/prescription-drug-abuse-rising-among-girls-and-women

http://www.bradfordhealth.com/articles/women-prescription-drugs-a-disturbing-epidemic-of-addiction/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/16/women-and-prescription-drug-use_n_1098023.html

 

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Self-compassion for a healthy recovery

Posted by on May 10, 2013 in Recovery, Self Compassion | Comments Off on Self-compassion for a healthy recovery

Self compassion for a healthy recovery

Self-compassion for a healthy recovery

With self-compassion, you value yourself not because you’ve judged yourself positively and others negatively but because you’re intrinsically deserving of care and concern like everyone else. Where self-esteem leaves us powerless and distraught, self-compassion is at the heart of empowerment, learning, and inner strength. And this is why self-compassion is absolutely vital for a healthy recovery. For so long in addiction and alcoholism we compared are selves to other people and we were always better than, or worse than. This was not self-compassion this was comparison, ego, and self-esteem. Self-compassion is something different and if you haven’t found it yet here are some ways to find self-compassion for a healthy recovery.

Treat yourself like you’re your best friend.

So what does that mean exactly? Treating yourself like your best friend means reacting to your actions in the same way you would with your best friend; it means taking on the attitude that you would have toward a friend who has failed at something. You would never berate your friend, judge them, or add to their despair would you? No, you would listen and have empathy and understanding; you would encourage your friend to remember that mistakes are normal and you would validate their emotions while being helpful. Treating yourself in this same way is self-compassion and this is self-compassion for a healthy recovery.

Write yourself a letter if you want to learn to talk to yourself like you would your best friend. Take the perspective on yourself as you would a friend and write a letter to yourself. Ask yourself what would a compassionate friend say to me in this situation? Later on you can come back and read the letter and have self-compassion for yourself. This is key to a healthy recovery.

Find better ways to deal with failing

Self-compassion for a healthy recovery means recognizing that failures are great learning opportunities not reasons to beat you up. Self-compassion allows people to maintain a peace of mind when they fail. In the face of many things such as rejection, failure, criticism; self-compassion is the strength and emotional stability of being able to hand all those things and becoming emotionally stable and having strength and dignity while handling tough situations is the key to a healthy recovery.

Write down any self-talk

If you self-criticize because your jeans don’t fit or you made some mistake write down the self-critical words you tell yourself and then ask if you would every say those things to a friend. Would you? No, of course you would never tell your friend the things you are telling yourself. Pay attention to the way you talk to yourself and try to remember what a friend would say to you.

If you really want self-compassion for a healthy recovery you can even begin developing self-compassion mantra.

A self-compassion mantra is a phrase that you can easily memorize so that when some harder times in your life, mistakes, failures, and criticism come up you can go to this phrase or mantra. Self-compassion mantras are different than affirmations. For instance, a self-compassion mantra would be something along the lines of telling yourself that suffering is a part of life, help me to be kind to myself in this moment, help me to be compassionate with myself. This is emotionally supporting yourself and is part of what recovery is all about. Because doing this is managing your emotions effectively and realizing that you are worth it, which is the whole journey of recovery.

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Moving Past Shame In Your Recovery

Posted by on May 8, 2013 in Addiction, Recovery, Shame | Comments Off on Moving Past Shame In Your Recovery

Moving Past Shame in Your Recovery

Moving past shame in your recovery

Most of us in recovery have dealt with shame. In fact, probably all of us in recovery have dealt with shame we just didn’t know that’s what it was. Shame is when you feel unworthy, unlovable or somehow less than other people without really knowing why. Shame is not an emotion but is actually a belief system. Shame is a lie we all tell ourselves sometimes. No one should ever be ashamed because they are worthy, deserving of love and respect just like everyone else. Everyone, especially those of us in recovery have done things we aren’t proud of but that doesn’t mean we are less than. This is why it is important to get past shame.

The whole point of recovery is to live a life that is happy, joyous and free. Recovery cannot reach its full potential if we are telling ourselves lies about being unworthy. So the first step in moving past shame in your recovery is to stop believing the lies you tell yourself about your unworthiness. Moving past shame in your recovery begins with re-teaching your mind to not believe the shameful things you have internalized and been telling yourself for years and maybe even your entire life. You have to learn to think differently about yourself and your place in the world.

The best way to begin moving past shame in your recovery is to talk to someone. Luckily in recovery we have many sober supports and hopefully a sponsor so there are plenty of people to talk to. Shame grows in our secrets and isolation. Shame holds onto all the things about ourselves that we don’t want anyone else to know about because we are afraid that if someone else knew those things they wouldn’t love us or care about us. Find someone you can trust such as your sponsor and talk to them about what you are ashamed of this is how you will begin moving past shame in your recovery. You will actually have the opportunity to bring all these things to the light that are keeping you in shame when you work 12 steps with a sponsor. The 4th step of the 12 steps goes over ever dark little detail that would cause shame so this is also another way you will get a chance to begin moving past shame in your recovery.

Another great way to begin moving past shame in your recovery is to write. Write it all down. Write about your shame in the form of stories, poems, letters to people that hurt you, and even just your thoughts. Writing is a great therapeutic tool to move past shame and it can also make it easier to see where you tell yourself you are unworthy so you can begin to change those thoughts.

Shame is baggage that we all have to carry alone and when we write about it or share it with another person than that heavy load is removed. This is one of the most important aspects of recovery and when you begin moving past shame in your recovery you will know it because you will feel clean, light and free. You won’t feel held down or held back by anything anymore.

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Eating Disorders amongst Adolescent Girls

Posted by on May 8, 2013 in Addiction, Adolescent Girls, Body Image, Eating Disorders, Mental Illness | Comments Off on Eating Disorders amongst Adolescent Girls

Eating Disorders Amongst Adolescent Girls

“I was in the hospital with feeding tubes in me. I had just had a heart attack. My only thought was ‘If I die, at least I’ll die skinny.’ I was twelve.”

Those are the words from a friend of mine who has been dealing with an eating disorder since she was a very young girl.

I ask her if she remembers how it started.

“I was 11 in the summer visiting my grandmother and there really wasn’t a specific event or anything.  I just looked in magazines and was into fashion, celebrities, etc. and thought ‘I want to look like that.’ Then I just started eating less, and healthy stuff, then started counting calories, exercising, becoming obsessed with it. It was fun for me to go to the grocery store and spend hours looking at the calories in stuff.”

Katie (names have been changed), now 25 and a healthy weight, still attends therapy for eating disorders.  In her words “Eating disorders are the hardest [to treat] because you have to eat food to live and you can’t escape it.” She contrasts it to drug and alcohol addiction, where you can totally cut out the addictive substance.  But, she says, like alcoholism and drug addiction, treatment for eating disorders is a “lifelong process.”

Eating Disorders Amongst Adolescent Girls: A growing problem

Eating disorders amongst adolescent girls is on the rise. Shockingly, four out of five 10-year-olds say that they’re afraid of being fat. Forty-two percent of girls in first through third grade wish they were thinner. And, half of girls aged 9 or 10 claim that they feel better about themselves when they’re dieting.

Eating disorder experts Eating disorders amongst adolescent girls start as young as 5 and 6 years old. They may be getting their obsession from parents who are preoccupied with their own body images, and media images of skinny pop stars.

By the time they reach high school, one in ten students has an eating disorder. And eating disorders amongst adolescent girls make up the majority of eating disorders in general. Ninety percent of all people who have eating disorders are women between the ages of 12 and 25.

Eating Disorders amongst Adolescent Girls: The Barbie Factor

While many eating disorders amongst adolescent girls begin while watching a parent worry about weight and calories, some of the unhealthy compulsions come from media and marketing campaign. Starting with their very first toy doll, girls are exposed to highly unrealistic images of female bodies. In the 1960’s Mattel released “Slumber Party Barbie.” This toy came equipped with a scale permanently stuck on 110 pounds and a small book called “How to Lose Weight.” The only words written in the book were “DON’T EAT.”

Fifty years later, Barbie is still an unrealistic image for a women’s body. The Barbie doll would be 5’9″ tall and weigh 110 lbs. — about 35 lbs. below a healthy weight for a woman of that height, if she was life-size.

Sources:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=126486&page=1

http://www.rehabs.com/explore/dying-to-be-barbie/

 

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