How to remove yourself from the victim role

Posted by on Jun 17, 2013 in Abusive Relationships, Codependent Relationship, Emotional Abuse, Helplessness, Recovery |

Addicts and alcoholics love to play the victim. We blame our addiction on outside people and circumstances. This allows us to shift responsibility for using drugs and drinking, and allows us to justify continuing to destroy our lives. We think, “If this had happened to you, you would use drugs and drink too.” This is not to say that addicts and alcoholics haven’t been through any trauma. Most addicts and alcoholics have. But instead of working through that trauma, we use it as an excuse...

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Learned Helplessness and Addiction

Posted by on Apr 15, 2013 in Addiction, Helplessness |

Learned Helplessness and Addiction Learned helplessness gets its origins from experiments on animals. Researches would put a creature in a situation where they were faced with unpleasant stimuli (circumstances) which they could not escape from no matter how hard they tried. Eventually the animals would accept they were helpless and stop trying to escape. Even after the researchers added in a way to escape the animals would fail to use it because they had become helpless. So what does this have...

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